Valentine’s Day is fast approaching, and I’ve been spending a lot of time reflecting on my biggest likes and dislikes in the dating world. I’ve learned that I really value and admire individuals who adopt healthy lifestyles and behaviours such as working out, cooking healthy (and delicious) meals and taking time for personal well-being.
My friend and I were talking about her recent love interest; a tall, handsome, nice, athletic McGill student who I’d met at the gym a few times. From my perspective, he seemed like a good catch.
“Oh, he’s great!” she said, “But he smokes – it’s a deal breaker.”
I started to think about whether this was true for my dating life. Was smoking a deal breaker for me too? What if someone only smoked socially, did it make a difference?
There have been several polls by magazines and dating sites asking, “Would you date a smoker?” Bad breath, smelly clothes and exposure to second hand smoke are several reasons why individuals reported smoking as a turn off. Although a smokers and non-smokers alike may have wonderful (or not so wonderful) qualities, I also recognize the need to maintain my values and expectations for individuals in my personal life. Whether or not smoking is a deal breaker – that remains to be tested!
How important is a smoking/non-smoking status in your potential or current partner?